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Marriage and Moving in Together By: Jonathan Bille  |
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 It may shock you to learn that more and more couples are waiting until marriage before they move in together. Why a couple would choose to wait until marriage before they move in together is a decision that isn’t so much based on religious morality as it is on wanting to give the marriage every advantage for success.
When a couple gets married they vow to share their lives with each other. When the couple finally moves in together, the couple really does share their lives with each other, the good, the bad and the ugly all included.
Waiting until you’re married to move in together is never a bad idea, but before you pack the boxes and rent the moving truck consider discussing the following before you put out the door mat.
• Talk money first. It always amazes me that couples just don’t seem to talk about money, how much they have, what their expenses are and what their earning goals are. It seems that too many couples just assume that it will all work out. Well it doesn’t always just work out. You need to have a serious talk about money and particularly what you plan to spend and what you plan to save. The operative word is plan. You need to make a money plan with your new spouse so that both parties know and understand how and why money is spent and how and why money will be saved and invested.
• Personal private space. Just because you’re married that doesn’t mean that your not going to want some space of your own. How important that space is depends on the individual, but before you move in together you need to discuss the idea of personal space and how important it is to you.
• Cleanliness and keeping the house in order. Some people are very neat and clean while others can be a little sloppy and careless when it comes to keeping the house in order. Before you move in together you need to have a serious discussion about what the cleanliness expectations are.
• Who has the eye for decor? Let’s face it, sometimes peoples taste in home décor can be questionable at best. Talking about what you like and dislike before you move in will save a lot of aggravation down the line.
Sharing a home with your new spouse is part of sharing your life. The best way to make sure it goes smoothly is to discuss the difficult issues before you move in together. All problems can be solved, particularly when you attack the problems before they become inflamed.
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